June 4, 2008

• Pansexual

  What is a Pansexual and why am I talking about it?  Good question, first things first, a Pansexual is...

  Pansexuality (sometimes referred to as omnisexuality^[1]) is a sexual orientation characterized by the potential for aesthetic attraction, romantic love and/or sexual desire for people, regardless of their gender identity or biological sex. Thus, pansexuality includes potential attraction to people (such as transgender individuals) who do not fit into the gender binary of male/female. Some pansexuals suggest that they are gender-blind; that gender and sex are insignificant or irrelevant in determining whether they will be sexually attracted to others.^[2]

  The word pansexual is derived from the Greek prefix pan-, meaning "all". "All" is specifically in reference to human genders.
  In its simplest form, pansexuality denotes the potential of sexual
  attraction to all genders. It is intended to negate the idea of two
  genders (as expressed by bi-).

  Now the why am talking about it.?  No I am not a Pansexual, closet or otherwise.  In fact I just learned this term a few days ago.   I was on the front page, and read  a featured web blog and they wrote about gay marriage, which they support, as do I.  Then she ( meaning the blog writer),  got a comment from someone saying they are pansexual.  Rather than embarrass this person and  ask a million questions about their sexual orientation, I made the choice to look it up. 

  I was somewhat disheartened to learn this is the first I was hearing of this word.  I'm hip, I'm happening right?  I thought I knew it all.  I know that any time, no matter what day, Maurey Povich is doing a who's your baby daddy show.  I have my pulse on coolness.  I went to see Avenue Q!    I watched puppet sex.  I work with gang bangers.  Waz up Mo phuckers, Yo. I ain't tryin to hear that.  How you gona tell me?  How you gona take points off some booshit, bogus, charge?  Oh sorry, I went on a little tangent there.  The point is I always considered myself to be in the know and in the now, until this new word popped up.

  I don't want to offend any of you Pansexuals out there, but it sounds like your the type that will just do it with anyone.  Although as I said, I think I'm a real cool cat, I don't get that. 

  I get gay, I get hetero.  After that, with the metro sexual etc... I get lost. 

  However, just because I get lost, does not mean I'm not accepting.  I
  realize, just because I don't understand something, does not mean I
  have to be against it.  Sure I would prefer people pick a side.  But that's because it's easier for me to understand. 

  Maybe they really can't pick a side.  I believe people are born gay and
  it's not a choice. Although with a select few,  I wonder if environment
  did have something to do with it. But that's another blog and I don't feel like getting into it.  For the most part, I think sexual orientation is something that happens at birth.   Maybe people are born Bi too? 
  Maybe people are born Pansexual?  I'm not ruling it out, it just seems to me most people are gay, or straight, period.
  
  I have had girl crushes ( my daughter taught me that term), that is when you find a member of the same sex ( in this case a girl or rather woman) attractive, and you like her a lot, but you don't want to have sex with her ( or him in the case of a boy crush, for a guy).  I am totally herosexual, when it comes to romantic feelings and sex, but there are certain women who I find very attractive and I enjoy their company, and I could see why men would desire them.  This doesn't make me Bi-sexual either, since as I said, I don't have any romantic or sexual feelings towards them.

  Bisexuality is something  I don't really understand.   It seems like most people who identify themselves as Bi, are really trying to closet their gayness, or they are trying to be all " I'm so cool, I like both".  I say be gay and be proud, you don't have to pretend to like both sexes sexually.  Of course, not being gay, I guess it's easier said than done ( the whole be gay and be proud thing.)  Maybe, people are born Bi, but like I said, all the Bi people I have known, are really obviously gay.  So are these pansexual people trying to be " man, woman, used to be man, kind of a woman, hermaphrodite, I'll date you, cause that's cool?"  Or could be it that they really have to potential to be attracted to anyone?

    All this Bisexual, pansexual, just confuses everyone.   And now we have that pregnant man, who is really not a pregnant man.  He/she is a woman with a vagina and uterus ( no penis, no testicles.)  Which I guess is a transgendered person who has not had the surgery yet.  Which again, is fine, except he/she is not a pregnant man in the sense of " Oh my God, a man got pregnant" kind of pregnant man.  And if he/she were to be with a man, then they would be a gay, transgendered person, which makes no sense because then they could have just stayed a woman.   Except they say no because there is a difference between gender and sexual orientation, and that just gets all mucked up.

  I can't keep up.  I'm all for love everyone and I'm certainly all for being happy in your life, but again, all these sexual, just confuse me. 

  But when it comes down to it, I'm all about two consenting adults, do your thing?  As long as your not molesting children, raping people, or hurting animals, I got your back.  But if you don't mind, can we just stop introducing too many terms into the mix?

    I'm just not smart enough to follow. 

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