Yes, it's been months, AGAIN, but I'm here now and that's all that counts.  Recently, I was a mother of the bride.  It wasn't as exciting as I thought, but it was moving just the same.  Here is a photo of the bride

 

Here is a photo of her dad,( expunged) and me

I think we look related, which is weird,

Who can get married in the US.?  

Everyone, except

Children- Children can't get married because they are Children.

Animals,- Animals can't get married, because they are animals, unless they are dogs, and it's pretend.  Like this couple

I picked these two because they are the colors of my two, and similar looking, ( I got another one since my last blog).  My two are boys though, so they can't get married in Il. even pretend, because they are both boys.  And brothers, even though not blood related.

Siblings- because there is no movement for sibling marriage because 99.% of society thinks that's gross.

Inanimate objects- because they are inanimate, unless, again, it's pretend like this couple-

Plants- because that's silly.

Gay couples- because it makes some people uncomfortable.

I am divorced.  I am allowed to be divorced because legal marriage is a legal contract and you are allowed to break legal contracts sometimes.  And a legal contract is not the same as church, which frowns on divorces for the most part. Or temple, which may or may not frown on divorce, I'm not sure.

Divorce isn't the best for kids but Dr.Phil says kids would rather be from a broken home than live in one, and that makes sense to me.  Just like I think it's better to live in a loving same sex parent situation than in a house where your parents are opposite sex but the dad beats up the mom, and or/ molests the kids. But Il. disagrees and Il. is the best state ever.  Except not really because our Governors go to jail and they don't have to go to the icky half way house when they get out, because they were Governors once and that means they are special.  

child molesters are allowed to get married and if you beat your first wife you can still marry another women after that as long as you get a divorce first.  

You can even murder people, like your parents, and get married in prison.  But usually only to the opposite sex because same sex is unnatural.

If your religion or non religion doesn't care if you are the same sex and get married, it's still mostly not allowed because some religions say no, and you are allowed to mix church and state if you want.  Even though the constitution says that is a no-no.

I'm not sure why, but it's true.

 

1967

The U.S. Supreme Court unanimously overturns Pace v. Alabama (1883), ruling in Loving v. Virginia that state bans on interracial marriage violate the Fourteenth Amendment of the U.S. Constitution.

As Chief Justice Earl Warren wrote for the Court:

"There is patently no legitimate overriding purpose independent of invidious racial discrimination which justifies this classification. The fact that Virginia prohibits only interracial marriages involving white persons demonstrates that the racial classifications must stand on their own justification, as measures designed to maintain White Supremacy ...

"The freedom to marry has long been recognized as one of the vital personal rights essential to the orderly pursuit of happiness by free men ... To deny this fundamental freedom on so unsupportable a basis as the racial classifications embodied in these statutes, classifications so directly subversive of the principle of equality at the heart of the Fourteenth Amendment, is surely to deprive all the State's citizens of liberty without due process of law. The Fourteenth Amendment requires that the freedom of choice to marry not be restricted by invidious racial discriminations. Under our Constitution, the freedom to marry, or not marry, a person of another race resides with the individual and cannot be infringed by the State."

From this point on, interracial marriage is legal throughout the United States

This does not apply to gay people though.  They don't have a right to persue happiness.  even though ironically, gay, used to mean happy. They are allowed to be unhappy with the opposite sex though, even though I wouldn't like to be married to a woman, because I'm not attracted to them and they can be very bitchy.

But I don't have that problem, phew.

I can get married to a man, and I can divorce him later, because that's allowed.

Pretty soon Gay couples may be able to get married in Il. because the law might change.  Some people won't like this and think that will ruin their own marriage and Il. as a state, even though it won't and Il. is already ruined.

My grandchildren, who I don't have yet, will probably be able to marry whoever they want, unless it's a child or table.  And most likely, not a rose bush either because that's silly.  

if my grandchild, who isn't born yet, is a boy and wants to marry another boy when they grow up, I don't care because I want people to be happy and if you are born gay it's very hard to be happy with a partner who makes you want to throw up.

some people say that you are born an alcoholic but you shouldn't drink and if you are born gay you shouldn't love either because both are bad.  

But gay doesn't ruin your liver as far as I know, which is gross if you ever knew someone with a fried liver.  And gay sexual acts don't cause car accidents, unless you are doing it in the car, while you are driving, and some straight people do that because I read that somewhere.  And I'm sorry I gave you that visual, but some gay people are smarter than straight people and realize that's dangerous.

People are very concerned about gay marriage, because it makes them uncomfortable.  Or their Church says gay acts are sin even though the bible says a lot of stuff and some of it is not cool. 

You are allowed to pick and choose in the Bible because you just are.  For example, you used to have to stone kids who where disrespectful to their parents, but now you can't even throw pebbles at them because they will call the cops and your ass will be hauled off to jail.  Instead, parents have to pretend that their kids are not rude, little, brats ,because jails are still not fun.

Someone's church isn't supposed to decide what's legal, but some people think that's the same.

People are not concerned about child molesters getting married because they usually marry the opposite sex and that's not unnatural.  

I don't want to get married again.  But the general consensus is, (and by general I mean my mom and boss,) that I should get married for financial security.  I think both are thinking Jewish, because a lot of Jews have money and that's not being anti-Semitic, it's just true.

I don't want to though, because I am not attracted to ALL men, even if they have money, and even though I am not gay. That would make me unhappy, ( if I wasn't attracted to them) but financially secure, unless there was a pre-nup and I got divorced which is allowed, but means I get nothing.  Which means I would be trapped and I wouldn't like trapped.

So I choose to stay single, because I have a choice.   

The End

 

 

 

 

 

 

As far as genetics go, I'm here to say it's a good thing God does the mixing and not Dave and Busters Photo Machine.  At least in my personal case.  Some of you might not have liked how your genes mixed with another persons, but I've always been quite pleased with the results expunge and I got. 

Yesterday our family was invited to the neighbors 30th birthday party at Dave and Busters.  This is a game /restaurant place.  They had a booth where you could mix your genes ( well really your pictures.)  I was excited, I wanted to see if expunge and I did it, would the kid look like Jennie and Matt.? Or if we had chosen to have a third, what would it look like?  We randomly choose a boy, because it's random in real life.  Please allow me to introduce my new son, Frodo.  After I gave birth to him in the photo booth, I decided he reminded me of a hobbit, hence the name Frodo. 

As soon as I got over the initial shock of having a deformed, Mexican looking son, I decided I loved him anyway.  I'm not sure how much it will cost to fix his ears, but after that's done and he gets a hair cut, he could be a cute kid like my other two.  He seems happy enough.  And he's growing on me, we just had to bond.

I have to say, any of those brats at school make fun of him, well lets just say the expunge family does not put up with that.

Matt was a little jealous of Frodo.  I can see why.  After all he's been the only son for 18 years.  And he was our baby.  He's also going to college.  And I'm sure he was thinking there would be no more kids since expunge and I are divorced and physically can't have more kids.  It would have never occurred to him that we would conceive and give birth to a child at Dave and Busters.

But I'm sure he'll learn to love Frodo as much as we do.

It's going to be an adjustment for all of us.  Well I'm off to make some appointments with some plastic surgeons.  Wish me luck.

 

More added to this blog after the line.

Yes, another post, I just felt the need to write about my work day again.  A lot happened while I was home recovering from yesterday.  We had two run aways who are back already and one termination who has not been picked up yet. 

Upon arriving at work, my optimistic self went up to boy one and said " so how was the movie?" his reply was a shrug.  Well that was not an I hated it, so I approached boy number two " how was the movie?" his reply, " A piece of Sh*t."  Alright then. 

I learned later that the director said The Pursuit of Happiness was too dark and they ended up seeing Charlottes Web.  Apparently, they were the only kids there above the age of seven.

Even though the boys are ungrateful little criminals, I still had to side with them on this one.  Now I have not seen either movie, but I did see the real Pursuit of Happiness guy on Oprah and the movie seemed inspiring. 

Since the guy ended up being a multi- millionaire,  legally, by sheer tenacity, I would think it was a perfect movie for these kids.

Therein lies part of the problem with my job.  The employees.  All the way up to and including the head honcho. 

Here is an example of the insanity, there is a Russian guy who is the staff on duty, he is above me in rank.  I have blogged about him before and call him Igor.  Now as I stated, we had two boys run last night.  Before they were caught they `were engaging in some illegal drug use.  So they have to be urine dropped.  The great part about being female in my job is I never have to do a drop.  It really grosses me out.  I know it's just pee, but still...

Anyway, I guess they couldn't get one of the kids to pee last night or this morning.  The boys need to line up outside on our way back from meals.  I carefully avoid a spray of spit as I nearly walked into it as it was flying through the air.  They are allowed to spit outside, and they take full advantage of it.  Anyway, the boy who had not had his drop yet, is yelling

Boy:  I ain't gona stand in this stupid line, I gota pee!

Igor:  Well you will have to wait five min.

Boy:  F that man, I gotta pee, if I pee in my pants I'm gona run again

Now, Igor could have left me with the other boys and walked the kid down and got his drop, but he choose to be stubborn

Random boy:  hell no, if you pee your pants were all gona laugh

Boy starts heading down to the dorm

Igor:  You must stop, I am very serious mon, you must stop I tell you.

Boy keeps going.

Igor chases after him all the way into the boys room, where he relieves himself in the toilet. 

Later...

Igor:  you deed that on purpose mon, you have all morning to piss, you could wait five min.  I hold my pee for long time, now I don't have a drop for you, I don't know what ees gona happen to you mon, but it does not look goood.  I try to drop you all morning and you dan't do it

Boy:  I don't f'n care you could have brought me down, I told you I had to go, SHE ( points to me) could have stayed up there while you walked me down, your just an A##hole on a power trip.

Hummm.....

I am going to a party tonight.  I am looking forward to it.  Going to get ready now, and will see you all soon.

Edit:  I think xanga changes some words automatically when I did not click change in spell check.  that bugs me.
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Edit: 2

The party was good, I am sober but caffeine high.  Semi ex is feeling good.  I like that we can join our friends as a couple.  It makes it so much more comfortable for me.  These are our showchoir families.  The really cool part is that all the college kids are home, and they were all so close in showchoir.  When they see each other they get so excited.  We all reminisce about the old show choirs past, the shows, the kids, etc... It's just an amazing experience the bonds we all form over the years.  Showchoir season we practically live to together, on busses, hotels, and floors of classrooms.  I guess it's like that in bands and maybe sports teams, but we just have found a tight nit group of people that are fun to be around and all the kids love each other so much.  The alumni come to watch the concerts when they are in town, hug the director, and all the kids still there doing what they wish they were still doing.  Anyway, I like when semi ex joins me, he's always gotten along with all the guys, and me, the women.  Of course certain people are not included ( like big mouth and her mousy husband) but her kids aren't really friends with ours.  Anyway, good times were had by all. 

Semi ex said I looked really beautiful tonight.  Like I said he was feeling good, so I took that with a grain of two many beers salt. 

My step Bro called tonight and made what I think is an apology, but a half assed one.  I accepted it, because were family for better or worse, and I'm not going to add any more stress to my fathers life.  He doesn't deserve that.  Some things you just have to let go of. 

jnm and I were talking about our internet beginings ( he and his wife were at the party) He used to go to an over 30 chatroom and said it got weird and dysfunctional ( back when AOL was cool).

I used to go in an All My Children Chat Room.  Talk about drama, it was a frikin soap opera within a soap opera.  One girl was livid that my friend pretended to be the real Susan Lucci.  She typed furiously about fraud etc.... give me a break it was all in fun.  Then I felt bad, because a mom of one of the kid actors came on and people were saying this kid was homely and couldn't act.  The poor kid was like five.  We did do some fun things on there.  We used to down load little wavs and share them.  They would be a Character saying things like : shut up: and that part was fun, but I ended on more than I am xanga, if that's possible and it had to go.  

Xanga has been a blast to me, creative vitual parties, good laughs, supportive friends, who could ask for more than that?  Plus I get to spew out my strange thoughts and people actually listen. I find pictures that amuse me and violate all kinds of copyright laws, which is the bad girl in me rearing her ugly head. 

So I'll probably write tomorrow, or maybe I won't, sleepytime Ambian is kicking in .........

 

Good night