Yes, it's been months, AGAIN, but I'm here now and that's all that counts.  Recently, I was a mother of the bride.  It wasn't as exciting as I thought, but it was moving just the same.  Here is a photo of the bride

 

Here is a photo of her dad,( expunged) and me

I think we look related, which is weird,

Who can get married in the US.?  

Everyone, except

Children- Children can't get married because they are Children.

Animals,- Animals can't get married, because they are animals, unless they are dogs, and it's pretend.  Like this couple

I picked these two because they are the colors of my two, and similar looking, ( I got another one since my last blog).  My two are boys though, so they can't get married in Il. even pretend, because they are both boys.  And brothers, even though not blood related.

Siblings- because there is no movement for sibling marriage because 99.% of society thinks that's gross.

Inanimate objects- because they are inanimate, unless, again, it's pretend like this couple-

Plants- because that's silly.

Gay couples- because it makes some people uncomfortable.

I am divorced.  I am allowed to be divorced because legal marriage is a legal contract and you are allowed to break legal contracts sometimes.  And a legal contract is not the same as church, which frowns on divorces for the most part. Or temple, which may or may not frown on divorce, I'm not sure.

Divorce isn't the best for kids but Dr.Phil says kids would rather be from a broken home than live in one, and that makes sense to me.  Just like I think it's better to live in a loving same sex parent situation than in a house where your parents are opposite sex but the dad beats up the mom, and or/ molests the kids. But Il. disagrees and Il. is the best state ever.  Except not really because our Governors go to jail and they don't have to go to the icky half way house when they get out, because they were Governors once and that means they are special.  

child molesters are allowed to get married and if you beat your first wife you can still marry another women after that as long as you get a divorce first.  

You can even murder people, like your parents, and get married in prison.  But usually only to the opposite sex because same sex is unnatural.

If your religion or non religion doesn't care if you are the same sex and get married, it's still mostly not allowed because some religions say no, and you are allowed to mix church and state if you want.  Even though the constitution says that is a no-no.

I'm not sure why, but it's true.

 

1967

The U.S. Supreme Court unanimously overturns Pace v. Alabama (1883), ruling in Loving v. Virginia that state bans on interracial marriage violate the Fourteenth Amendment of the U.S. Constitution.

As Chief Justice Earl Warren wrote for the Court:

"There is patently no legitimate overriding purpose independent of invidious racial discrimination which justifies this classification. The fact that Virginia prohibits only interracial marriages involving white persons demonstrates that the racial classifications must stand on their own justification, as measures designed to maintain White Supremacy ...

"The freedom to marry has long been recognized as one of the vital personal rights essential to the orderly pursuit of happiness by free men ... To deny this fundamental freedom on so unsupportable a basis as the racial classifications embodied in these statutes, classifications so directly subversive of the principle of equality at the heart of the Fourteenth Amendment, is surely to deprive all the State's citizens of liberty without due process of law. The Fourteenth Amendment requires that the freedom of choice to marry not be restricted by invidious racial discriminations. Under our Constitution, the freedom to marry, or not marry, a person of another race resides with the individual and cannot be infringed by the State."

From this point on, interracial marriage is legal throughout the United States

This does not apply to gay people though.  They don't have a right to persue happiness.  even though ironically, gay, used to mean happy. They are allowed to be unhappy with the opposite sex though, even though I wouldn't like to be married to a woman, because I'm not attracted to them and they can be very bitchy.

But I don't have that problem, phew.

I can get married to a man, and I can divorce him later, because that's allowed.

Pretty soon Gay couples may be able to get married in Il. because the law might change.  Some people won't like this and think that will ruin their own marriage and Il. as a state, even though it won't and Il. is already ruined.

My grandchildren, who I don't have yet, will probably be able to marry whoever they want, unless it's a child or table.  And most likely, not a rose bush either because that's silly.  

if my grandchild, who isn't born yet, is a boy and wants to marry another boy when they grow up, I don't care because I want people to be happy and if you are born gay it's very hard to be happy with a partner who makes you want to throw up.

some people say that you are born an alcoholic but you shouldn't drink and if you are born gay you shouldn't love either because both are bad.  

But gay doesn't ruin your liver as far as I know, which is gross if you ever knew someone with a fried liver.  And gay sexual acts don't cause car accidents, unless you are doing it in the car, while you are driving, and some straight people do that because I read that somewhere.  And I'm sorry I gave you that visual, but some gay people are smarter than straight people and realize that's dangerous.

People are very concerned about gay marriage, because it makes them uncomfortable.  Or their Church says gay acts are sin even though the bible says a lot of stuff and some of it is not cool. 

You are allowed to pick and choose in the Bible because you just are.  For example, you used to have to stone kids who where disrespectful to their parents, but now you can't even throw pebbles at them because they will call the cops and your ass will be hauled off to jail.  Instead, parents have to pretend that their kids are not rude, little, brats ,because jails are still not fun.

Someone's church isn't supposed to decide what's legal, but some people think that's the same.

People are not concerned about child molesters getting married because they usually marry the opposite sex and that's not unnatural.  

I don't want to get married again.  But the general consensus is, (and by general I mean my mom and boss,) that I should get married for financial security.  I think both are thinking Jewish, because a lot of Jews have money and that's not being anti-Semitic, it's just true.

I don't want to though, because I am not attracted to ALL men, even if they have money, and even though I am not gay. That would make me unhappy, ( if I wasn't attracted to them) but financially secure, unless there was a pre-nup and I got divorced which is allowed, but means I get nothing.  Which means I would be trapped and I wouldn't like trapped.

So I choose to stay single, because I have a choice.   

The End

 

 

 

 

 

 

I was embarrassed, I really was.  I just wanted her to shut up.  She provided material for what is going to probably be one of the best Saturday Night Live skits yet. 

My 21 year old daughter could have been called an hour before the debate and done a better job. 

Gosh darn, I'm not foolin ya either.

Also, she said the word also every time she answered a question.  I started counting.  At least three also's per question.

Example:  Moderator asks simple question.

Sarah:  hummm, gosh dang it, I am going to give you a straight talk answer also, because also I am going to tell it to you straight, and even though I am not sure what you asked, by golly also, I am a Maverick, and I like to be tolerant also. 

Half the time I was  " WHAT?" or " You did not just say that!" 

I have to go to work, but by jiggity I want to give a shout out and extra credit to the boys at work, my little juvies.

Yo, dudes, if you alls could vote, you should votes for John McCain cause thens you would have one straight up hot VP, and also she done gona saves thems rich peoples money.

Edit:  My sister likened Sarah to Miss South Carolina "such as some people don't own a map"  What a true statement!!!!!!!!  They should hang out and be friends.

As I have stated before I'm not into politics.  In general, I'm liberal and was thrilled my girl Ellen tied the knot, legally and everything.  But for the most part, I just can't get into it.  Which is surprising since I like soap operas and scandal and everything.

I guess I should be embarrassed that I had never heard of Obama's VP choice until today.  And I may have never known, except it was blaring off my comcast front page.  Good, bad, ugly, whatever, I just can't seem to muster the maturity and social conscience to care.  I don't even come by it honestly either.  Both my parents watch the news, read the paper and vote with well informed minds.  I go more on a gut feeling, and of course looks, and if I know they are democrats, which I think I am.

It did bug me when I heard that McCain didn't know how many houses he had.  But to be fair, do any of us really remember things like that?  And I know this is terrible to say, but it's my blog so I can say what I want, I just don't think any POW can be okay.  I mean he has to have some major post traumatic stress going on.  What if he cracked one of these days? 

When it comes down to it, everything is politics, and popularity and mean girls, and back stabbing.  And it's fine, when it's in a Dawson's Creek episode, or in kindergarten.   But the whole picking a president thing, sort of stresses me out. 

It seems like it all comes down to who can be the biggest bully, and who can dig up the most dirt, and everything they say is scrutinized and judged.  And then all my empathy gets magnified, and I feel bad for the candidate, even if he's conservative.  And then sometimes I agree with the republican point of view on certain issues, and it leaves me torn and confused.  And I feel guilty, and I want to hit myself, but don't want to be known as an emo, self mutilator.

And I really can't discuss it with anyone, because I really don't know what the hell I'm talking about, except I don't like Bush, but I feel sorry for his girls,  and I wonder if they are secret democrats, because they seem like they would be.

 And I used to really like Hillary, when she came on Oprah a few times, but then she got all desperate and it freaked me out.  And I like Obama's voice and hers irritates me and I know that's dumb, but it's true.

And I hate that what's his name cheated on his dying wife, and I really feel like that baby might be his.  And I think the other what's his name got really ripped off with the prostitute.  And all this is only fun on my ABC soaps, but not fun in real life, because these people are supposed to be fixing things for us, like our shitty economy.

Speaking of which, I just need someone to fix the housing market, so my lots sell, and I can be a " normal" divorced person and NOT live with my ex husband.  But honestly, I have no idea who can do that, and if you have seven houses, do you even care?

So now you see my problem.  It's like reading a book that makes you think, it gives me a headache.  And normally I don't care if your getting oral sex, under a desk, by someone other than your wife, but if

your president, and you get caught,

     you might not be worried about my health care.  You might be all focused on how you got busted in front of the whole United States, and that sucks for us, pardon the pun.                         .

And lately I am worried about my health care, because I am on more medications than I really want to be on at this age, and if I make it till 85, I need to be able to afford the other twenty things I will probably be on.

But will he care about that if he's having a PTS mental breakdown, or dodging bullets from some racist sicko, or getting caught screwing some man or woman other than his wife. 

And what if Biden's priest does bad things with little kids, and Obama gets a new minister  who's white and all the black people get pissed off?

There's too much to worry about!!!!

And poor Ellen will probably be divorced in a few years, and she won't have to live with her ex wife, because she has money and it's all too depressing to think about.

So I won't. 

       

The great divider.  A hot topic guaranteed to split family and friends.  I have heard, more recently with the whole Obama thing, some really heated arguments.  Where people were once on the same page ( or so it seemed) they are now biting each others heads off.   If you wanted Obama over Hillary, you were or are a woman hater, especially bad if you happen to be a woman.  If you wanted Hillary over Obama, you were/are racist, stupid and a bitch lover.  Some life long republicans hate McCain  so will vote Obama, but would not have voted for Hillary.  Some life long democrats are pissed about the Obama thing, so they are voting for McCain. 
The thing is, the arguments are pointless.   If you are so passionate about the subject that you are willing to argue, then your not on the fence,  so you are unlikely to change your mind, nor the person you are arguing with.  And even if , just to stop the arguing, I pretend to agree, when I am in my little voting booth, you won't know what circle I am going to fill in.  And I could easily lie to you about it.  When it comes down to it, it's an individual, private choice.
I just don't see the point in arguing.  People pretend that it is a healthy debate, but rarely have I seen such emotion then when it comes to this election in particular.  To risk alienating a good friend or family member by getting into a huge fight about your choice as president, seems, well, stupid.
I admit, I probably go too far in the other direction, and am too passive about our country.  I know I should care more.  At least I do vote.  But as soon as I say who I'm voting for, the inevitable, argument ensues.  And of course not being well informed, I have no good argument. 
But I think I am well informed enough to know who I don't want. 
Often, even if the person agrees with my choice they start arguing.  You tell them they are preaching to the choir and they still go on and on, arguing with a person who isn't even there. 
I have so many friends on xanga and in real life who, when it comes to politics and religion, are on a completely different page as I am.  But when it comes right down to it we want the same things in life.  Where we differ is how we should get there.  And I am not going to tell them there way is wrong, just as I would hope they wouldn't tell me my way is wrong.  Life is too short.  Can't we all just get along.  Let the candidates rip each other apart, and then vote for who you think will best serve this country.  Even if your choice is stupid, I'll still respect it, because I respect you.